I started dating when I was 15 years old. At 15, I felt like a grown up even though I wasn’t at all. So last night I started thinking, what if the problem is that we start dating too soon? I mean by the time were 23 most of us will have dated a decent number of people and the chances are most of us were hurt by a lot of them. A lot of the guys that we dated were just dumb and immature, they had no idea what to look for in a girl. They had no idea that they were letting go of an amazing person and they wont until later down the road. The guys we dated were most likely infatuated with looks and the idea of having a girlfriend but the work wasn’t put in. This takes a tole on a lot of us because we get so fed up with dating and were still so young. Most guys are not mature at all until they are in their 30’s. Maybe late 20’s but the guys I know and have met are not even close to being mature. They still think about partying, getting drunk on the weekends and sleeping around.
It just changes your perspective on meeting someone and you start to believe that it wont happen for you, that this is as good as its going to get. Well it’s not. I really believe that there are decent MEN out there and for men there are decent WOMEN. You just have to find each other and be patient. Obviously dating people is not a bad thing because it’s how you figure out what you like and want but maybe not starting so young. I swear 15 year old’s now a days don’t even know what being a kid means. Everyone is so eager to grow up and talk to boys.
Love is supposed to be this amazing thing. I have read about it, I have seen it but I have never actually felt it ( being at peace, happy, nothing toxic, no walking away when it gets hard). I read so many comments from girls who were replaced, lied to, cheated on, hurt, manipulated. The list is endless. Girls begging for answers, trying to understand, waiting around, going back and blaming themselves. It breaks your heart, it definitely breaks mine. I have been through it. I understand that pain. I was strong enough to walk away, mainly because to me staying felt more impossible than leaving. I just don’t want any of you guys to settle, ever. Do not settle for anyone who is willing to stay. Do not settle, do not chase them, do not wait around. Love yourself unconditionally and just know that when its meant to happen, it will.